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Showing posts with label death. Show all posts
Showing posts with label death. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Let me introduce....

Anastasia.





I wasn't planning on getting another pet. At our house we already have the cats, Olivia & Kevin Catsner, the really goofy doggy Miller, and our 15 year old turtle, Shelly. 

Last year, the kitty cat love of my life, Sophonia, died from a stroke. Her passing nearly took me with her. I loved Sophonia like I've never loved no other cat. She came into my life when I needed her most. She was born when I was in a relationship that was horrible, although I didn't know it at the time. A year ago this month she died from that stroke.

Sophonia wasn't like a "normal" cat. Most cats will only sit with you when they want to sit with you. Sophonia would sit with you whenever. You could pick her up, place her on your lap, shoulder or wherever and she was fine with that. She'd sit with you for hours on end. You know how most cats seem to be in a hurry to get in front of you and then poke along or just completely stop? Not my Sophonia. And the funniest thing she learned in her short lifetime was something she learned from her Doxie brother, Frankie. She would gallop down the hallway (we lived in a mobile home) at high speeds along side Frankie anytime they would hear our car pull into the driveway so they could greet us when we came in the door. 

The night she died, Frankie never left her side. And for weeks after her grieved until I thought he was going to starve to death. We tried different brands of dog food just trying to get our little guy to eat but the vet said he was depressed. He was missing his best friend. I knew the feeling. I was missing her, too. Even though we had several other cats, none of them could take her place. She just had this personality that was like none other.

After I left that relationship and moved back to my hometown, Olivia was adopted from the Humane Society. She was never adopted as a replacement, there could never be a replacement. We just wanted to give an older cat a second chance.

Fast forward to this month. The anniversary of Sophonia's death month. Courtney and Justin told me several times about a kitten they'd seen darting out in traffic up the street. I knew it needed to be rescued but I didn't think we needed anymore pets. Then this past Friday, Justin mentioned that he thought that the kitten was marked similarly to Sophonia. Well, that just did it for me, we had to go rescue the kitten right then and there. We have a humane trap so we put a can of tuna and a bowl of water in it, set it in where the kitten had been seen and waited.

For several days, we checked the trap but there was no luck. There was even one day that it looked like the kitten had went in the trap and eaten the food but she was so tiny that she hadn't set the trap doors off. Well, patience and persistence paid off, because as of Monday, the little girl is mine. 

Her name is Anastasia and it suits the tiny princess to a T. She doesn't resemble Sophonia exactly but there's a lot of similarities that are hard to ignore. For one, Anastasia is very happy to be held pretty much any time. And another, she's a calico like Sophonia. Also, it's more than just a coincidence that she showed up near the anniversary of Sophonia's death.

I've snuggled Anastasia a lot since she came here. And I've shed a few tears thinking of Sophonia. Some may think it's silly to think of a cat in such a way. I won't apologize for loving my pets like I do, they're more than just animals to me.


Monday, October 24, 2011

Dealing with grief

In my lifetime of 39 years I've had so many furry family members and of those I've had, I've had to deal with most of them dying. We live on a very busy street and because I hate a litter box, our kitties have been outdoor pets. Now, don't get me wrong because we have had our share of indoor pets. Right now we have Shelly a little turtle who is about 10 years old. (I've had her longer than I've had Alex) We also recently had Annie the hedgehog and Ozzy the Pueblan Milk Snake. (and before you go saying eww or anything mean about Ozzy, I just have to tell you that in the beginning I felt the same way but soon came to love him and he was one of the best pets we've ever had.) Ozzy and Annie both died of old age earlier this year.

With the loss of pets comes the responsibility of helping your kids cope with the pain and questions that death brings. My mom had this friend that she worked with. When one of their pets would pass away, they would tell their daughter that the animal had ran away. I'm not judging anyone's parenting skills but I do not think that's the best way to handle that. I think that kids can handle the truth. I believe that learning at an early age that life can come to an end, expected or abruptly, can help children learn to deal with the deaths of grandparents and people that they're close to. If they ask questions, only answer enough to satisfy them based on their age level.

Tonight our cat, Batman, was hit by a car and killed instantly. I didn't know it until I got ready to roll the trash can to the street. Alex and Nick don't know yet. I'm going to wait until Alex is home from school tomorrow afternoon so that he doesn't dwell on it all day at school. Nick is only two so I really don't think that he'll totally understand that Batman is gone, only that one of our three cats isn't here. Alex on the other hand is eight and very emotional. (ADD, ADHD and ODD) I'm pretty sure he's going to have lots of questions and I'll just handle it the best way I can but I'm positive that I won't lie to him.

Many times in the past when I've lost a furry family member, I've read this poem and want to share it with you. It does make me cry but it helps to release some of those feelings.

The Rainbow Bridge

By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.
For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.
No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.
They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.
For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.
The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.
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